MEET-UP RULES

JASMIN BERLIN is a non-profit BDSM meet-up organised by volunteers. Invited are all women, lesbians, inter and trans people (WLIT*) over the age of 18. Self definition applies. Cis men (people who were assigned male at birth, feel like they are a man and live in a male gender role) are not invited.

In the BDSM scene we strive for responsible interaction. In order to ensure this, we have discussed “play rules” and established a code of conduct. The current rules go back to the SchMacht play party agreement of 2012, but have been adapted for JASMIN BERLIN  as a  workshop, discussion and play space.

Attention: We expressly request that you take a voluntary Covid rapid test beforehand (self-test / test center) and do not come with acute cold symptoms even if the test is negative.

Do not use your phone. Photographing, filming and recording are forbidden. Make sure your phones are neither seen nor heard: you can have them put in a locker at the entrance or leave them in your bag (best on airplane mode or turned off/silent)

Please be discreet also after the party: don’t mention names of attendees (no outing, obvious greeting, identifying information etc.)

Don't touch other attendees or their belongings without prior permission. Respect the limits of others, as far as you know them or they have been communicated to you. Everyone is responsible for themselves. Please heed your own limits. 

We adhere to the principle “safe, sane, consensual” or RACK (risk-aware consensual kink).

The general safewords at the meet-up are : Red = “stop the scene!”, yellow =“something is wrong, please check in” and green = “everything okay!” If someone uses the party safeword “red” and the scene isn‘t stopped immediately, everyone around is obligated to intervene at once. If it might be impossible to talk during the play, please agree on a stop signal.

It is forbidden to consume illegal drugs or strong alcohol. It is best to come sober. Anyone visibly drunk or under the influence of drugs willl be excluded from the meet-up. Please notify your potential play partners without being asked whether you are under the influence of (even small amounts of) alcohol, legal or illegal drugs, or medication, that may alter your reaction time, your judgment, or your pain perception. 

Agressive flirting as well as asking abruptly for last names, occupation, numbers or social media profiles are unwelcome.

Every NO to play offers or the like is to be accepted without discussion. Nobody owes anyone else an explanation. Not answering doesn't mean yes.

Please pay attention whether someone feels pressured by your play offer or questions and if in doubt better take a step back.

All genitals and anal areas must be covered in the bar area as well as in passageways.

Negotiations, discussions and longer aftercare belong in the bar area and not the play area and should be apart from the introduction round and the discussion round (if there is one at that evening) 

When there is a discussion round we talk on a level playing field. Please respect that during the discussion rounds in the bar area.

Smoking is only permitted in the smoker's room. Close the door quickly behind you.

Toilets are not for playing and only intended for their original purpose.

The play area is intended for playing. Naked genitals are okay at your own play space, but not in passageways. We ask everyone for mutual consideration.

Do not interrupt plays! (exception: safeword RED/ROT)

• Do not make comments about scenes, even if it is a compliment.
• Do not ask players during a play, if you can watch (It is usually okay to watch respectfully at a distance and without interfering.)
• If players make a “go away/more distance”-gesture, just do it without discussion.
• Keep a respectful distance, don't open curtains.
• Do not masturbate while watching. (exception: if it is pre-negotiated and away from passageways)
• Do not talk in the play area if it is not a part of your play (longer negotiations should also be done in the bar area).

Rules for players

• Do not involve anyone watching unless it is pre-negotiated.
• Do not reserve equipment by placing bags, towels, toys etc. on it.
• Please notify your play partners before a scene about physical or psychological things they might need to know, allergies etc.
• Please notify your potential play partners without being asked if you are under the influence of alcohol or drugs (see “general rules”).

Do not take any glasses with you to the play area (bottles and mugs are okay). Do not eat in the play area (exception: emergency snacks).

Wear gloves when you touch genitals or anal areas (including your own), touch bodily fluids or play with needles and the like. It is best to use dental dams, cut-up gloves or condoms for oral sex.

Keep bodily fluids within your play area. Make sure you don’t disperse blood or ejaculate, e.g. with impact toys.

Bring a suitable cover like a plastic sheet or towel to protect the play equipment when you play with bodily fluids.

Throw used needles and single-use blades into the sharps containers. Any single-use materials that have been used during blood/needle play have to be thrown away, other materials and the play area have to be disinfected. 

If you have broken skin (deliberately or accidentally), cover the areas afterwards as long as they might bleed (no matter how small the injury is).  Do not walk around outside of your play area with needles and the like within your body. 

Clean and tidy your play area after your scene and disinfect the surfaces. When using a disinfectant to disinfect toys, equipment or skin, please adhere to the directions of use, especially the contact time.